Women over Men? Or Men over Women?
I don't really watch TV, but today while I was eating I saw one interesting subject that was discussed.
The subject was "Women over Men or Men over Women". And it's and interesting topic. Is it okay, for a man to know if she wins more than him? Or should women always win less than the man she lives with? Or should a man be okay with the fact that his SO earns more than him?
Let's wrap up this "problem" fast.
We're are changing and entering a new stage as a society, with us being more acceptable towards gay and every type of ethnicity there is. So this subject shouldn't be a problem, but it is. Why? Because we are in transition and the rules aren't set out and we're not clear how everything is supposed to be. All because of pride, ego, shame, ego and preconceived notions.
First question was: "Is it okay for a woman to earn more than a man?" Easy, yes.
Second question: "Should the man know if she earns more than him?" Of course, it healthy for him to know. It's not okay for him to know if you win 1 million dollars a month because he will go batshit crazy.
Third question: "Should a man be okay if she earns more than him?" Yes, he should be proud of her (and himself for being that fucking lucky).
But here are the problems:
Should a woman take care of a man, just like a man can take care of a woman, financially, and the husband to be a house man? Now this is where it gets tricky. Why? Because women are used to and raised to believe that there will come a time when a prince will come and take care of them. But now in this new stage, women for the moment don't feel okay for them to take care of a man. Hmm, interesting. So when we do it, it's okay. But when you're supposed to do it, we are leaches that take advantage of you? I'll let you think about that dear women for a second.
Second Problem:
How should a man behave and do if she earns more money than him? Why is this a problem? Because we don't want to look like leaches that sit all day. So how should a man behave? Do what? If he can't get to that level of income to his wife? Well act normal and don't over do it, you're together for a reason. And you know that's not money.(Unless you're an asshole)
Third Problem:
How should a man feel? This is a TABU thing for men, more than you would think. Because just like women ,men are raised to be brave, strong, hard workers that can provide for their future families, especially first for the girl we fall in love with. So everything is tied up in our ego. And when this subject comes up, it's messy, not only for the guy, but also for the gal. When we fail as "MEN" to be the one's we provide and be the strong "pillars" of our relationships and household we crumble like a 4 year old after losing his toy, getting scared and crying, inside of course. Because we want you to rely on us and have faith in our abilities.And I think this is why women are paid less for the same job as a man in general. It's not because we are sexist assholes, it's because we are babies if we can't give you reliability, certainty and security. Besides right now, his friends would make fun of him, just like your friends would make fun of both of you, probably. Depends on their education and how open their mind is. And that's why this is a "problem" since we didn't really adapt to this situation, since it rarely happened. But we shouldn't feel less of a man, it's normal as long as the relationship works.
So, in the end, this shouldn't be a problem at all. As long as the relationship is a healthy relationship, and you came together (hah, sex joke) because you liked each other, not because money. There is no problem.
The subject was "Women over Men or Men over Women". And it's and interesting topic. Is it okay, for a man to know if she wins more than him? Or should women always win less than the man she lives with? Or should a man be okay with the fact that his SO earns more than him?
Let's wrap up this "problem" fast.
We're are changing and entering a new stage as a society, with us being more acceptable towards gay and every type of ethnicity there is. So this subject shouldn't be a problem, but it is. Why? Because we are in transition and the rules aren't set out and we're not clear how everything is supposed to be. All because of pride, ego, shame, ego and preconceived notions.
First question was: "Is it okay for a woman to earn more than a man?" Easy, yes.
Second question: "Should the man know if she earns more than him?" Of course, it healthy for him to know. It's not okay for him to know if you win 1 million dollars a month because he will go batshit crazy.
Third question: "Should a man be okay if she earns more than him?" Yes, he should be proud of her (and himself for being that fucking lucky).
But here are the problems:
Should a woman take care of a man, just like a man can take care of a woman, financially, and the husband to be a house man? Now this is where it gets tricky. Why? Because women are used to and raised to believe that there will come a time when a prince will come and take care of them. But now in this new stage, women for the moment don't feel okay for them to take care of a man. Hmm, interesting. So when we do it, it's okay. But when you're supposed to do it, we are leaches that take advantage of you? I'll let you think about that dear women for a second.
Second Problem:
How should a man behave and do if she earns more money than him? Why is this a problem? Because we don't want to look like leaches that sit all day. So how should a man behave? Do what? If he can't get to that level of income to his wife? Well act normal and don't over do it, you're together for a reason. And you know that's not money.(Unless you're an asshole)
Third Problem:
How should a man feel? This is a TABU thing for men, more than you would think. Because just like women ,men are raised to be brave, strong, hard workers that can provide for their future families, especially first for the girl we fall in love with. So everything is tied up in our ego. And when this subject comes up, it's messy, not only for the guy, but also for the gal. When we fail as "MEN" to be the one's we provide and be the strong "pillars" of our relationships and household we crumble like a 4 year old after losing his toy, getting scared and crying, inside of course. Because we want you to rely on us and have faith in our abilities.And I think this is why women are paid less for the same job as a man in general. It's not because we are sexist assholes, it's because we are babies if we can't give you reliability, certainty and security. Besides right now, his friends would make fun of him, just like your friends would make fun of both of you, probably. Depends on their education and how open their mind is. And that's why this is a "problem" since we didn't really adapt to this situation, since it rarely happened. But we shouldn't feel less of a man, it's normal as long as the relationship works.
So, in the end, this shouldn't be a problem at all. As long as the relationship is a healthy relationship, and you came together (hah, sex joke) because you liked each other, not because money. There is no problem.
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